In George Orwell’s dystopian novel 1984, citizens of the totalitarian state of Oceania are taught to practice something called doublethink—the ability to hold two contradictory beliefs at once, and to accept both as true.
When we talk about “healing” from narcissism, we’re not talking about some magical overnight transformation where someone becomes humble, emotionally fluent, and completely others-focused. That’s not realistic. And frankly, that kind of fantasy only sets us up for disappointment and denial.
Do you ever say “yes” when you really want to say “no”?Do you feel bad when you try to speak up for yourself? If so, you’re not alone. Many people feel guilty when they set boundaries. But here’s the truth: Setting boundaries is not mean. It is healthy.
Have you ever walked away from a relationship thinking, “How did I end up here… again?”